I’m 19 M. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months now. Before we were even friends I knew she had a boy best friend and I thought they liked each other, when we started to know each other I knew she only saw him as a her best friend. When we started dating I was still kinda uncomfortable about how close they were even though I had no doubt she liked me.
They are in the same like robotics club at the university and sometimes after the meetings they go walking to an ice cream place nearby.
I want to make it clear that I completely trust my girlfriend and I know she only loves me. The problem is her friend.
There are some things that really bother me.
Im not a really big texter, i kinda send updates of what’s going on during my day or if something cool happens i text but i dont really have full conversations. That kinda leaves me satisfied with how we talk when we don’t see each other.
She’s kinda the same way in texting so texting is pretty comfortable for us and there isn’t like a constant pressure to text.
However, this friend of hers does text her a lot and I guess I’m worried that they speak more together than me. She showed me a picture of herself she sent to him after she got ready for our date and that really bugged me and I told her: you are sending pictures to him? And she replied with: he’s my bestie.
I guess I’m worried that he’s getting some of the same attention or benefits I get as a boyfriend if that makes sense. Like going out or calls or photos and messages. She doesn’t touch him though.
After all this time knowing her I know she doesn’t think it’s that serious, and I know if I bring up the topic she’ll tell me I’m overthinking it and exaggerating. She doesn’t see it how I see it. And I don’t want to sound like a bad guy but I have a girl best friend and I have slowed down on how close I am with her. Whenever I went out alone with my friend I told my girlfriend just because I don’t want it to be misunderstood, and my girlfriend answered like kinda making me know I didn’t really have to tell her. I don’t spend time alone with her as much because I don’t want my girlfriend to misinterpret it so I guess I kind of expected her to do the same.
And there’s another thing, she has told me this guy is constantly looking for a girlfriend. So he likes a lot of girls because he desperately wants a girlfriend. I’m scared my girlfriend is one of those girls he likes and she doesn’t realize, because as I said, she doesn’t think it’s that big of a deal. I know she loves and I trust her but I’m scared that she’s like satisfying this guys need for a partner without her realizing.
I don’t know how to bring this up because I know it may start an argument but it really bothers me ever since I started to date her.
I don’t know if I’m really overthinking it and just being jealous.
I won’t ask her to stop talking to him, I just want to let her know how it makes me feel.