After 11years+ of relationship and 1 year of marriage my wife left me for a colleague. No kids, no house. We were a super happy couple till the wedding. Me 33y, she 32y. The plan was to get married and enjoy life for a couple of years (travel, work, friends, hobbies) before having kids. For 10 years our love story felt like an honeymoon despite we had to face some challenges (health, long distance, work, relocation). It was a relation that was already tested, and was working very well, that is why we were both strongly in favour of marriage. After we came back from the honeymoon I started to feel like “I was not her priority anymore”. She kept justifying herself saying she was focused on work. Beginning 2025 I started noticing attention from a colleague and I warned her immediately the guy was hitting on her. She dodged the topic saying it was not big deal and she was going to handle it. During the year she did multiple business trips with this colleague and after one of those she admitted to me there was a connection between her and the colleague. I yelled, I told her to protect the marriage, and the cut all the bridges with the colleague. She said she would do it, but the guy was working on the same project and for business reasons they had to still interact. In October she cheated on me during another business trip. She came back, she admitted what she did and said she was confused about her feelings. Then few weeks later she left me. I asked what was not working between the two of us to en the marriage, she said she does not know, she knows I am perfect for her, and I am the guy she married, we have 11y+ of history, but right now she does not feel it, and she wants to follow her emotions an be with the colleague. Now I know I have to move on with my life, but I cannot help myself and I keep wishing their relationship to fail. I felt like she had an identity crisis of some sort after the wedding (she does not confirm this) and she found in the colleague that was hitting on her an easy escape. I feel like she isolated herself in a “work bubble” with him where there is just work and business trips. The guy is full of shit, I am 10 times better than him, I know it, but he was hitting on her in a moment where she was emotionally available and she felt for him. In the past 10 years we never experienced any of that, that is why I brought up the identity crisis post wedding explanation.
What are your thoughts?
EDIT:
What are the chances of success of HER NEW relationship? I just want the two of them to break up..