I’ve experienced some of the busy/ kids/ work/ life balance issues in my young family and know how that impacts intimacy.
Once upon a time in my marriage sex felt like another item on the long list of chores I was failing to keep up with at the standard set before we became parents.
Meanwhile my husband wanted more of me and felt rejected.
So, he stepped up and started “clearing my plate”. I didn’t ask he saw the need and did it. He started with the vacuuming, then bath time and bedtime routine, the kid’s hair styling and now he manages school mornings, lunches and the “bus rush” on his own.
I’m no-longer the default parent (the school nurse calls him) and overall feel less overwhelmed.
He is truly a partner.
I have time for myself and that freedom is redirected towards the family and my partner.