My husband is not feeling well after the holidays. We’ve been running ourselves ragged and he’s got some sinus issues because of it. I mentioned a couple days ago “why don’t we make cookies and hang out NYE” and he said “if I’m feeling okay.” NGL this annoyed me because we’re literally staying in our house and I would have no issue making the cookies myself (I love to bake). I’ve made several comments about NYE and “maybe we should do xyz” and nothing ever came to fruition. He is not to blame for this, I also did not take any initiative to plan anything. And we are truly exhausted! But even staying home and spending the evening together felt like too much.
Well yesterday, my friends who we usually get together with on NYE, called and started talking about a plan. They live quite a ways away from me, so I honestly didn’t think I had gotten an invite (which again is FINE) but they had meant to invite the entire group. I said that I’d love to go and I’d have to see about my husband because he’s not feeling well. When i saw him a little later, I said “I’m going to get together with the group, I totally understand if you don’t want to go but you have an invitation if you want to.”
He got upset, said he was looking forward to NYE with me because we had planned something together and that NYE is one of my favorite holidays, and he’s upset I didn’t ask him what he wanted to do beforehand. I am honestly surprised at this reaction and I’m like “you literally couldn’t commit to hanging out with me at HOME.” And if it’s such an important holiday to me and you know this, why have you made no effort to plan something yourself?? He has continuously reiterated “it’s so weird you didn’t ask me” but I really don’t think it is! Now I’m super frustrated. I feel like NYE is tainted, if I stay home I’m going to be annoyed bc I was looking forward to going out. If I go, I’m going to feel bad for leaving him at home.
And just to add on top of this, he is not the sickest he’s been. He’s left me home alone to be with friends when I’ve been sick. We are very self sufficient people.
So is it weird I made these plans without asking him?