I’ve dated quite a bit in the past and met a lot of genuinely great people. My last relationship, though, ended about 8 years ago when I moved to take care of my dad while he was sick. After that, dating more or less stopped entirely, with not a single date that entire time.
Since then, my life has been pretty simple and contained with work, hobbies and working out taking up most of my time. I did make attempts to branch out by joining some social groups and met some solid people, and I even tried dating apps. Even had friends helped curate my profile, but after 8 months without a single like or match, I walked away from the apps altogether.
I do get lonely sometimes, but honestly, not as often as you’d expect. Most of the time I keep to myself, and I’m generally content. I’d rather go to the gym than attend social events, and lately I’ve noticed I’m not really engaging with women at all anymore. I often find I avoid them altogether. I’m not sure whether this kind of solitude is particularly healthy. I’ve often held to the belief that getting comfortable can actually be bad in many cases.
Dating wise, I’m now in my 40s, I don’t have kids, and I feel completely out of sync with the modern dating world. I’m calm, reserved, not performative and that seems to put me at odds with how people connect now. I’m not entirely sure what’s happening, but I can tell I feel out of place.
Perhaps I’m meant to be by myself. I’m curious if anyone else out there is going through something similar.