I’m F 27, husband is 26. We have 2 boys age 3 and one on the way but it’s still very early so no one but I know. I got married in a different country in 2020 and my husband came to the US in 2024. I’m currently not working but I did prior to my kids being born, but I am actively searching for remote jobs that will allow me to work while having kids. My husband is working. We live with my parents, I’m an only child. Both parents work. They pay mortgage and other things. My husband for many months did not pay a thing in the house and would often be offended if I would ask him to contribute and he also has a separate checking account and no joint account with me. I asked him to transfer me money from every paycheck so I can take care of at least a few bills since we’re living with them and also for the kids needs. To which he only gives me $600/m and I’m supposed to pay 5 bills and also use that money for kids and groceries?? He acts like 600 is a favor and as if he’s giving a lot. My dad even gave him his car for free. We even bought him a phone. He doesn’t spend a dime on the kids or I or towards groceries but he has the nerve to ask for certain groceries, ask for me to make him banana shakes after his workouts with 2 bananas. One day I made it with one because bananas were running low and kids eat them too and I wasn’t planning on going to the grocery store and he called me cheap. He hid his raise from me and when I confronted him he said I’m greedy and after his money, that if he told me then he’d have to give me more money. That no one tells their wife about raises because then they want more. He called me greedy because I asked for more than 600/m to help with everything. Also, just continuing with the rant he doesn’t take the trash out when he leaves for work nor does he bring it back in when he comes home. Even though my dad does it, my neighbors do it. Everyone does it. But to him, he thinks it’s a lowly thing to do and that this isn’t what he’s here to do. Taking out trash etc. I’ve never asked him in a rude way, just a simple can you take out when you’re leaving for work. How else am I supposed to word it? He does nothing. He’s literally incompetent to do anything. I can’t live with someone like this for the rest of my life?? I don’t want my boys to grow up seeing this behavior and learn from it. Please tell me I’m not being crazy or unreasonable