I've been trying for many years to get off from penetration using toys. However, no matter the length, if they vibrate, or if they're ribbed I can't seem to get any stimulation via penetration. I've tried different angles to see if maybe I just wasn't hitting it correctly, but everything seems to indicate that maybe I just don't have one. Looking it up online I've seen people say that they just experimented until they found it, but I haven't been having much luck with that.
Is there anyone else who struggled to find their g-spot? What did you do to finally achieve an orgasm with the G-spot?
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Try with a full bladder, stick the toy in a few inches and angle down towards your bum.
I need to be really turned on, I can’t finish without clit stimulation personally. Mine really isnt that deep and is upwards
So the existence of the G-spot hasn’t actually been “proven”. I would do some reading about it before thinking there’s something wrong with it.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot
Have you tried the toys that are specifically for gspot? They are curved to hit the right spot. As for positions I feel like doggy or on top while leaving back a bit are the most effective.
I have found mine, what with I know where it is located and can feel the stuff associated with it, however I feel nothing from it (unless my urethra, which runs right through there, gets irritated, then if feels like a stingy, UTI pee sensation– and, no, I am not a squirter. My urethra just doesn’t like the irritation.)
It is really more of a hypothetical erogenous zone than it is something like the clitoris that by default is designed to deliver sensations for pretty much everyone– plenty of women don’t find it at all stimulation.
The problem may not be the spot but your pelvic floor.
It may be over tight or too weak. Id go to a pelvic floor to get checked out or if you cant, at least give kegels a try and see how you feel. You could also try exploring using your hands first. The key is not to give up.
Here’s some info on the G spot for you. From what I know it’s just inside the vagina about 3 inches or so towards the pelvis. To reach it with fingers you have to be palm facing up with your fingers curved. It has very small bumps and is a little circular.
The Female G-spot | Anatomy.app https://share.google/paz1gFfrhUQ95lABh
Come hither….works with fingers, just keep motioning
I think it is more common than not to have a hard time finding your g-spot. I have male anatomy but I think there’s a degree to which the experience is similar, with the prostate being equivalent to the g-spot, and I’ve been with a number of female partners and talked to a lot of women and men about this and their experiences are generally similar, that a lot of people have trouble finding it!
Also a word about this:
> What did you do to finally achieve an orgasm with the G-spot?
Most people aren’t able to orgasm through g-spot stimulation alone, so I would set aside that goal as something that might happen, but is likely not to be a realistic goal. Think of the g-spot as something that can feel good on its own, and something that might enhance an orgasm or make it more intense, but it’s not usually the spot that makes the orgasm happen.
It’s much easier to orgasm through stimulation of the clit (or penis in men, which is basically equivalent.)
The easiest way for most people to reach the g-spot is to reach one or more fingers inside, reaching between your legs, and then hook them around and massage the inside wall on the front of your body. Inside the body is all soft parts so you can sometimes push the spot out of place, like it slips out from under your fingers. (This is often what happens if you feel a sensation of fleeting pleasure, and then it doesn’t come back.) You need to massage the spot between something, usually by holding it in place and massaging it against the pubic bone. Keep in mind, the spot can move around as you change posture, it’s not always in the exact same place.
The g-spot is also usually easier to find if you are already turned on. A lot of people don’t get much out of stimulating it if they are not turned on already, and many people need to also stimulate the clit at the same time in order to have it feel really good. If you touch it when you’re not turned on, it might feel like nothing at all, or might feel uncomfortable like a light burning sensation, or like a sensation like you have to pee. This is because it is located along the urethra.
When you have found it, and are stimulating it in a pleasurable way, then it will give you a really good feeling that you will want more of. But it’s not the same exact feeling of pleasure you get from rubbing your clit, the sort of sensation that builds to orgasm. The g-spot feeling is more like something that just feels good on its own, but doesn’t lead to orgasm on its own.
You might find it easiest to reach using two fingers but you can definitely reach it using one.
It is much easier to find with fingers than toys because you get tactile feedback. Once you know where it is and how you like it stimulated, you can then switch to using toys.
Straight guy here: although I can always locate the G-spot (by touch) in a partner’s vagina, only a minority of partners actually respond positively. So I would not be surprised if any woman (i.e. you!) fails to get any pleasure from it.
Do you know where you’re at in your cycle? I can find my g-spot like a heat seeking missile, but at certain times of the month it just seems to vanish. I also find it can get harder to find the g-spot the more turned on I get. (tenting maybe?)
Try experimenting at different times of the month.