My bf (31m) and I (30f) have been together for about 2 years. Last year I moved to live about 5 mins away from him so we could get to know each other better before we moved in together and it has been eye opening.
I found out he only showers and brushes his teeth on days he has work and he doesn’t wash his hands after he pees. I honestly don’t want to kiss him if he hasn’t brushed his teeth and I found out his ex girlfriend also complained about his bad breath.
He’s trying to make changes but I don’t think he’s trying very hard tbh. He’s gotten better but I have to ask him most mornings if he has brushed his teeth and when he pees I always have to ask him to wash his hands with soap.
I’ve been trying to be patient, no one is perfect, but what pisses me off is that he calls me “mean” when I get on him about not doing it. I’m at a loss, children don’t need to be told do this but he does and then he has the audacity to get mad.
It culminated into a fight this morning where he called me “mean” again and this time I lost it and said “ok you want me to actually be mean? I have to raise you like a child cause your parents didn’t” He told me we’d talk when “I stopped throwing a tantrum like a child” and I responded “I’ll stop throwing tantrums like a child when you have better hygiene than a child”.
any advice on how to proceed?