My girlfriend (25F) and I (21M) are dealing with an awkward scheduling situation and I’m not sure what the normal or reasonable way to handle it is.
My cousin and his fiancée announced their wedding date first. Later on, my girlfriend found out that her childhood friend, someone she’s known her entire life scheduled her wedding on the same day. There was no coordination between them, so it seems like a genuine coincidence.
Both weddings are important for different reasons. I’m close with my cousin and my family expects me to attend his wedding. My girlfriend is very close with her friend and has been involved in her life for years, so she understandably wants to be there for that wedding. The events are in different locations, so attending both isn’t really possible.
Right now, we’re mostly just trying to figure out what’s fair and normal in this kind of situation. One option is attending separate weddings, but I’m not sure if that’s typically seen as acceptable or if couples are generally expected to attend weddings together. We’ve also talked about other compromises, but none are obvious.
There’s no major fight happening we’re currently just trying to navigate expectations from family and friends and avoid making anyone feel slighted.
For people who’ve dealt with similar conflicts, how did you handle it? Is it reasonable for each of us to attend the wedding we’re more directly connected to, or is there a better approach?