As of the day of our wedding, my husband and I werent Facebook friends. I was so happy about the wedding that it didnt bother me. After our honeymoon, literally right after, (we were waiting for our ride home from the airport) he posts what can only be called a thirst trap on his instagram. A picture of himself in a bathing suit, shirtless, from the honeymoon! It was all down hill from there. I looked at his instagram following – he was dehydrated!!!! Girl after girl after girl. Not OF models, just TONS of random women. Some scantily clad. Some appearing very narcissistic and like exhibitionists. All gorgeous! I asked him why he was following so many women and he offered to remove them, with out explaining who they were or how he knew them. He removed some of them, but many still remained, and he didnt remove them as followers of his. His account is private – so he had to allow all these women to follow him and vice versa. He finally friended me on FB, but when he did, his friends list disappeared! The only explanation is that he was friends with a ton of women that he didnt feel like clearing out.
The next thing was the beginning of the end. I put that we were married on FB, as any normal person does – and he would NOT approve it!!!!! This broke my heart and made me very suspicious. Why wouldnt he want to tell the world about his new bride? It made no sense to me! When I asked him why he wouldnt accept me as his wife he said he doesnt use FB. What a lame excuse for hurting me and destroying my trust! I asked him repeatedly to open his friends list, which he refused to do for a long time. Then I put my foot down. The friends were all men and like 2 or 3 women. He had definitely cleared the women out! Then every so often there would be some new woman in his insta, always with content that was sexy selfies and not much else. He was still thirsty. At this point I would throw a fit anytime some random woman would should up in his following. He had created an insecure monster at this point. I looked at his threads, same thing, all women, all beauties, all sexy selfies. It made me sick. He deleted threads altogether. Then at one point we fought about his FB, so instead of accepting me as his wife he deleted his FB. Then suddenly a messenger account pops up with his name on it. He tried to say it wasnt his account. Same bullshit with tik tok and all the rest. He was showing up as active on FB, even though he said he didnt use it, so I questioned him about that, and then suddenly the little green dot disappeared forever, he had hidden his status! He also has his status hidden everywhere else. He has a snapchat too. In fact he has every platform you can have – telegram, discord, X, everything. Same story everywhere. He finally put that he's married on FB but NOT TO ME! We are separated now. I couldnt take the shady shit anymore. I have never been forced into a position like this, utterly desperately insecure. His social media activity was that of a single man. Putting hearts on women's pics and saying theyre my friends and willing to die on that hill. There's only so much a person can take with this social media crap. He was totally inappropriate and disrespectful, disloyal and dishonest to say the least. Seems to me that I was a placeholder and alot of those women were back ups. Im not gonna stand for that. They can have his dumb ass! Sorry this is rambling and all over the place. He did other things too but suffice to say the shit on socials broke the camels back! Thoughts please……