So to put it in context, my friend and colleague is the most patient man in the face of the earth. We work together at a hospital and he is known as "Father Teresa" (as a mock of Mother Teresa) due to his good character and friendly nature.
Since 2023 he fell in love with his now wife, and has a little boy of 4 months old. Their relationship was really rocky from the start. She has a strong personality and is really opinionated about a lot of stuff. Most of the time he just nods and pleases her or doesn't express how he feels due to her having very explosive responses which difficult their communication a lot. He in turn expresses that she loves him deeply and has a lot of good gestures with him, she often buys him gifts, and encourages him to push forward in his field. He also expresses that she respects him a lot and wants him to be successful.
However, and despite me not being in the relationship, I do see things that worries me. In 2024 she went out with friends and got absolutely smashed, she went home walking with one of her male friends and instead of arriving at her destination she supposedly "blacked out" at her friend's house while she was going to the bathroom before reaching home and stayed at his place. My friend tells me that she constantly gets angry about how he does stuff, even how he chops fruit. She has consistently gone out of her way to check his phone and finds absolutely nothing (as always) and then tells him if he is not hiding something, like he is "too good to be true". And the list goes on and on…
Sometimes I see at work that when he arrives at the med rounds he is exhausted and honestly looking kind of sad. I don't know what to do, he forgives her every transgression and aggression to his persona and I see that this affects him deeply at work and on his mental health. Now with a child in the middle of things I fear that he doesn't want to end their relationship as he always said he grew up in a "divided household" and his parents were divorced.
I am truly desperate to help him.
Sorry for my bad english, as its not my mother language.