Before reading farther i think it is important to mention that i am in a queer relationship (im a girl and my partners gender is undefined but is female)
i have been with my partner for a while and we were each other first times about a year ago and i wanted to give them head but i don’t know how to bring it up. they have said they don’t want to give it (which is fine) but haven’t given any clear signals as to whether or not they want to receive it. I don’t want to just bring it up and say “can i eat you out?” so does anyone have advice about bringing it up casually, maybe like watching a movie and it has a scene and i somehow start a convo about it and then it gets brought up from there (if so how to start the convo and what movie) or what is another way to bring it up. i’m not good with bringing up this sort of thing and i am terrible at initiating things so idk what to do