Iv noticed alot of conversation lately about "letting ourselves go" after settling down whether that be after marriage or long term relationships. We're not totally "vanilla" in my specific marriage, we like to experiment and play around in the bed room and have been talking for years about wanting to try another female in the bedroom with us(mutual boundaries are in alignment) I've also personally felt like iv been letting myself go a bit as we age and after kids and with having to work and cook and clean, that its hard for either of us to find motivation to exercise and stay fit. (Neither of us are overweight just want to keep being healthy and nice looking) Those of you that are more into the "Lifestyle" of swinging or poly or open relationships. Do you find it helps make you want to stay fit and clean and overall just look your best because your still technically in the dating game in a different kind of way opposed to the single dating pool?
Bonus points if you can share the best places to meet like minded "Lifestyle" friends. IRL or online.
Thanks from Chicago, IL