I 40 F are asking if he 40 M is cheating. We have been together for 10 years. Every time I hint at wanting to be intimate or wanting intimacy I get yelled at and called sex crazed. (We only have sex once a month and that’s only because I’ll bring it to his attention that we have not been intimate and most of the time it’s not even that and when we do it, it feels rushed and empty.) There’s so much more as well, we don’t sleep in the same bed as he says our bed gives him pain so he sleeps out on the couch and our couch is not the most comfortable and is overdue for replacement. It’s been this way for a couple of years. I on the other hand don’t have issues with our bed and I get a comfortable good nights sleep every night. Whenever I ask to see his phone he navigates and configures something on it before passing it to me and when I have possession of his phone for too long he gets upset and demands it back. This week was Christmas and he got me a gift from Amazon a Swarovski bracelet when I opened it he kept suggesting we can return it over and over again. I said no that I loved it but if it were too expensive we can return it. I did ask if it were expensive and he said that it was $70 dollars and that if we were to return it he would purchase something else that would be the same price anyway so the cost isn’t the issues. I asked to see it on Amazon, he went to the app and then I tried to take his phone as he was navigating Amazon and he looked like he was trying to erase something or hide something on the app he held on tight to his phone saying he didn’t want me to see the price. I responded that’s ridiculous you just told me the price he turned red and then started to get upset that I wanted to see his Amazon account. Immediately I thought to myself there’s something on there he does not want me to see something that maybe he purchased for someone else that I would find that wasn’t part of the Christmas shopping list. Sure enough the bracelet he purchased for my gift was $70, but why would he hold on tight to his phone saying he didn’t want me to see prices.
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I shop regularly from Amazon and most of all my gifts he purchased for me I already have multiples of from the same brands he chose in which he knows that I know the prices of, so it just seemed very suspicious that he would hold on to his phone and make such a big deal of the gift he already told me the price for. Was he hiding a gift for someone else?