I can’t orgasm or feel much pleasure without prostate stimulation

New relationship and I’m very attracted to my partner, but for some reason I am struggling to feel much unless I use a finger in my ass or something. Not a huge issue and my partner was originally hesitant, but she agreed to let me do it on myself and didn’t mind it.

The problem is I want to use toys and she wants me to be able to orgasm without using a toy, even if it’s like a plug or prostate massager. She doesn’t use sex toys and also doesn’t seem interested in trying them, but she also has no issues orgasming and I make sure she enjoys sex. She tries to make it good for me too but I don’t feel like the effort is really mutual, though I do have a much harder time feeling pleasure so it’s hard to say. I’m sure it’s frustrating on her end.

I want to introduce one for myself and see how she feels, but I still struggle to feel pleasure even with anal stimulation. It helps and I need it 90% of the time, but I want to be able to orgasm from her oral or vaginal sex.

I do masturbate a lot but I don’t use a lot of pressure or a tight grip- she is a lot tighter than my grip actually. I also rely on dildos or other anal toys 90% of the time. I’m really afraid of telling her I use dildos but I think a plug would be fine. She wouldn’t even have to see it during sex

Does anyone have advice? She is a really nice person but my issues with feeling pleasure have already made her a little upset with me, and I’m afraid our relationship might not work out due to this. I responded poorly and caused an argument but I think it’s been resolved. I’m very frustrated and feel like our relationship would be perfect if I didn’t have this issue

Also I am not circumcised. Tried to respond to this comment but I can’t