Hi! I’m F 21 and my boyfriend is M23 we have been dating for almost 2 years now and I’m honestly losing hope. In the beginning our sex life was really good, great even! But now it just feels so hard. I have a very high sex drive I can have sex every day, my partner is not, I have tried to respect this so I don’t mind only have sex once a week. Lately though, it’s been getting to me we do have our good moments and bad but it just feels like a never ending cycle.
So to the real point, I love lingerie I have a collection because I find it so beautiful and it makes me feel so special and beautiful. I sometimes will put a set on while he’s on a game, and since we live with roommates I can’t go and show him so I just send me videos of me doing stuff, it takes over 30 mins to answer every time and when he does answer he says I’ll be there in a few minutes or in one more game, but it’s always more. I do ask him for sex when he’s not on the game and he still just says he’s tired or is going to go on the game. A common sentence used is that I have a very high sex drive and he can’t keep up, I’m so unsure if that’s true because I do understand that maybe having sex once a day isn’t normal.
Moving in to problem number 2! Lately when we’ve been having sex I haven’t been able to cum, or it takes longer then him and he goes soft, after this I kinda expect him to start doing something else to help me get off cause I don’t mind at all that he finishes before me!! But he doesn’t, and when he does he asks but with a not interested tone if you catch my drift? And when he asks it makes my brain think instead of it being off which just makes me annoyed. I really wish he would take control more often and just take what he wants.
I’m so sorry this is so long, Im just at a breaking point, I feel like being this young I shouldn’t be having these issues. I constantly think it’s because since we first started dating I’ve gained 5-7kg but he has too and I’ve never treated him differently. But with this I feel like he’s just not attracted to me anymore. I do try as well to set toys out, like beads and whips and floggers even a collar for myself! But we’ve only used it once. I’m at a loss and genuinely don’t know what to do, he says he’s sorry everytime but it keeps happening.
Please help!