Good evening all! Merry Christmas.
I was looking into my post history and stumbled upon a post from a year ago. Here it is for context.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/s/fF2NmHxybX
I read through it like a journal entry and it was wonderful to read the changes a year can make.
Tonight my wife and I had some wonderful sex. We made out like teenagers, embraced and laughed deeply.
I’ve spent the year since my linked post working on my mental health. Over the course of the year I’ve chosen to be completely honest with my wife, I’ve been an active listener, I’ve been present when she’s around, I’ve made time, I’ve been a team player and, most of all, I’ve been a more confident person and have made gains to let the 10 yo little boy that was running the show (and the source of my anxiety) go.
This has had a PROFOUND effect on my marriage.
Did we both want to fix a marriage in crisis? Yes.
I just wanted to post this to counter the reams of posts that say there’s no coming back from a really rough patch.
We started repairs a year ago. With some work, those repairs have seeded a whole new, wonderful relationship.