My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We both graduated from college two years ago. In the time since, I have found two long-term teaching positions, and I am currently at a tenure-track job. She, on the other han,d is still working as a substitute teacher and claims she can not find a job and that "it does not come as easily for her". After looking for over a year for apartments in our general area (hour radius of where we both live) I was able to find a great deal on a place that is a 1 bed 1 bath 800sqft. To be fair, this apartment is 50 minutes from her current job. This apartment is 30 minutes from my job. We both live with our parents for reference. She said that she would be willing to move in once she gets a salary-type teaching position. I even offered to pay 70% of the rent until she got a higher-paying job in the area. From my perspective has put in very little work to get one. I applied for about 20 positions last year and 20 positions the year before across multiple states and went on 5-10 interviews over the course of 2 years. She has only applied to maybe 4 positions total and been on two unsuccessful interviews. I want to be patient, and I do understand it is very hard to find a job right now, but sometimes I fear she is being too picky and only will apply to schools she likes. I feel that she believes the current school I work at is "beneath her" because it's not in a upper class area and its signfigantly poorer and more working class that her neighborhood.

TLDR: Is it normal that my long-term girlfriend isn't interested in moving in with me?


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