Hey y'all. I'm single, but am trying to work on being a better self-lover (kinda silly, I know).
I have orgasmed plenty and would say I'm regularly orgasmic, but there are times when I realize, realistically, that I'm not going to have a pleasurable orgasm.
Usually this is when I've been masturbating for a while, things feel good but aren't escalating towards orgasm, and I may be a little desensitized or sore. I know logically that it's probably going to be best to stop, but my lizard brain cannot conceptualize stopping until I orgasm, and without fail it's, like, barely-there, kinda weak, and makes me realize I maybe wasted the last 45 minutes.
So, my question is, how do I get my lizard brain to realize that a) a good orgasm isn't happening, and b) that that's ok? I feel like some sort of wind-down routine might be nice, but I'm not sure what that might entail.