We've been together 17 yrs now. He is 42 i am 34. We have 4 kids, 16,14,9 & 7(he doesn't want to get married). I've fought through depression & anxiety (under control with meds). I've gained 100lb. In the 17 yrs that we have been together. He recently told me that he wants me to lose weight because he wants to be more attracted to me. My thing is, I gained most of this weight with our first 2 kids and my weight has been on and off since and he had never said anything about it untill now. I've had so much trouble losing weight, sometimes I feel like its impossible. I kept going to the gym for 3 yrs and only lost about 10lb. I got pregnant and gained so much more. I've been a SAHM for well over 12 yrs now, while he works 70+ hrs/week. He comes home to a clean home, hot food on the table, homework done and clean folded clothes in his closet. When he said "he wanted me to lose weight " I kinda felt like there was a (or else) coming up. I feel like I'm going crazy over thinking everything, like, did he stop loving me, is he wishing my body will go back to when I had no kids, why is he with me if he's not attracted to me anymore? I didn't think it hurt my feelings, but the more I think of it the more I realize that my feelings are hurt. Or is it all in my head and im over reacting and I do need to lose weight for him so I can keep him happy? My oldest daughter said If I lose weight I should leave him right after so he knows that a perfect body isn't everything. Could she possibly be right? He and I have been through it all. I would literally be homeless if I decided to leave. I have no money and I also have nothing to my name. I just need to know that im not alone in all this, is anyone else experiencing or been through this? If so, what or how did you do it?