I (16F) have two older sisters (17F & 18F) and a little brother (10M). I have a relatively good relationship with all of them, but it’s different with my oldest sister. It just seems like she doesn’t really care about our family, or we always seem like the least of her priorities. She isn’t empathetic with any of us and she always puts her needs and interests above what the rest of us.
An isolated example I can think of is when we were on vacation and all the four of us had to sleep in the same room. My little brother and our other sister were sick so, even though it was hot outside, we turned the AC off during the night in the hopes of them feeling better. My oldest sister didn’t care about this and she decided to turn the AC on just after our other siblings fell asleep, just because she was too hot (I told her not to multiple times but she didn’t care). (This may sound dumb but she acts like this constantly).
She does care about her friends though. They all label her as the “mom of the group” and she is actually an empathetic and considerate person around them, which bugs me even more. Why is she nice to everyone but us? Why does she like them better?
When we are with our cousins she always tries to exclude me and never respects me or our other sister. Our other sister actually holds a b igger grudge towards her because my oldest sister would verbally abuse her. She doesn’t care when something that she does affects us in a negative way.
I also remember really looking up to her when I was younger, but I only got hurt by her later.
I obviously love her, and I know she loves us too. I feel like I know her better than she thinks I do, but I think that’s because she doesn’t really try to know me back. She is a good person and not all bad, obviously. She is just a teen (like me), so I kinda get it ig.
She is a human just like me, but I can’t seem to understand the reason behind her actions and behaviour. Is it just teenager stuff that my other siblings don’t do? I really just want to understand her better to know how to behave around her.
TL;DR; : My sister (18F) is really lacking in empathy and compassion towards my family and me (16F) in comparison to other people. Great person really, just decides not to show us that part of her. Is it just because she’s a teen and different than me? I want to understand her better.
I’m sorry for any misspellings or confusing parts! English is not my first language