My (29f) and my bf (32m) have been together for a few years now, and I’ve expressed that I would enjoy if things were more dominating on my end. He seems open to it and we’ve done a few things: we’ve tried blindfolding (fun) and choking (not for us) and he occasionally steps into that energy a tiny tiny bit when we have sex, but it’s infrequent and tame.
I’ve learned that sometimes with him, giving actionable guidance is helpful. I think if I gave him more specific things I would want him to do or try rather than asking him to simply “be more dominant”, it would help bring that energy out or even see if he likes it. I don’t think he would want to reach true dom/sub status, and that’s okay. I just want us to try it on and see where it goes and he’s open to that.
TLDR: the title says it all, actionable things I can pitch that help him try on being more dominating or controlling of me in the bedroom.