(Couldn't decide on a flair but i feel like this is a beginner issue) So I started dating this guy 4 months ago. He's my first relationship. I've never engaged in sexual acts with anyone before him. He has some experience.
We've been taking it slow and getting me used to and comfortable with sexual things. By now we've worked up to fingering, blowjobs, using toys (vibrators & dildos).
My issue is whenever he's stimulating my clitoris, whether by itself or while fingering, i feel so overstimulated. It always feels like that overstimulation you feel after an orgasm (like where you start twitching). But I know for sure that i havent actually orgasmed.
I've asked him to go slower and lighter, but it still feels overstimulating for some reason. I don't know if it's because of the fact that it's just someone else doing it and not me. But I really enjoy doing these things with him, and it doesn't feel bad, I just can't handle it for that long.
Is there anything else I could try? Should I ask for more foreplay? I'm just confused on why it feels so different when he's stimulating me compared to me doing it myself.