I feel a bit werid posting this here, and a bit stupid for asking for advice about this. But here is goes. My bf (18M) has a foot fetish…. I (18F) don't 100% know how to feel about it still ever though i have know for almost a year. I don't really have a problem with it, but i don't have alot of confidence when it comes to certain things. I am a switch, but preferer to be submissive, my bf is also a switch and is mostly dominant. But when it comes to his fetish he likes to be a bit submissive. Don't get me wrong, i do like seeing a man beg and whimper for what he wants. But i don't feel very confident in myself when initiating sexual stuff quite yet. I feel a bit silly and nervus he won't like something when im initiating it, even though he hasn't not liked anything ive done before. Another issue is we don't hang out alot irl due to us both being busy and stuff being expensive so can't afford to be driving around alot, along with personal stuff that gets in the way sometimes (like family). And lately when we finally get to hang out there is always people around and we can't really do much. So we have resorted to having phone sex when we can. And i don't really know much to do with his fetish over the phone, and sometimes in person too. Over the phone, i just usally have my feet in frame, sometimes in thigh highs (regular and fishnet) or paint my nails while on the phone while he watches. I move my feet around alot, and try and keep them at angles he likes best. I even play into his submissive side by say phrases he likes, like "Good boy" "Your such a good boy" "Your being such a good boy, can you cum for me?". But i was wonder is there more i could do over the phone? And if so how to go about it since i have confidence issues? When in person the few times we've had enough time alone, ive worn thigh high fishnets (he likes them best) and had my legs in his lap (we sit next to eachother due to sitting siduations when we hang out) and he rubbed my feet while we played a card game. He the last time we did this brought up for the first time, (to be fair he warned me about what he was about to say was about his fetish and that i might find it strange or werid and might say no) a footjob. At the time i told him i would think about it. I've never done that before and i dont really know how to even go about doing it, exspeically because of the angle of our siting siduation that i mentioned. And when we do manage to get to sit across from eachother (for refrence im around 5'2 and he's 6'2 or 6'3) my legs are too short to reach his lap to even attempt it that way, which i thought would be the easiest way, exspeically for the first time doing it and our siduation (Would be easier to hide if people were around). But my legs are too short.
So over all what are some things i could do over the phone and irl that would be simple and easier for a beginner that dosent really have the confidence to initiate anything too big yet, and something easy to hide if people are around.
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you could try being on a couch and both laying at separate ends, just use lots of lube or spit or whatever. it’s pretty difficult for me too cause i’m short and my bfs tall lol
Start smaller than you think and focus on communication, not performance. Ask him what specifically makes him feel good, agree on one simple thing to try, and remind yourself that initiation doesn’t have to be perfect to be wanted. Confidence grows from repetition, not from getting it “right” the first time.