Throwaway because I don’t want him finding this account.
English is not my first language so I’m sorry for any grammar/spelling mistakes. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months, we both study in the same city but he’s from another city across the country and is home for the holidays. We saw each other only twice this month before he left because I had final exams, also my classes start earlier than his so when he comes back, my semester will already be started so it’ll be more complicated for me to go on dates.
Long distance has been really hard for me this time. We did long distance for about a month and a half when we first started seeing each other, but for some reason it feels harder now. I feel we are a little bit disconnected with each other and I have been feeling really sad because of it.
His family is having some financial troubles and he’s working two jobs so he texts every so often and usually only call at night, we FaceTime but not for as long as I’d like. He also goes to bed early (9:30 for me, 10:30 for him).
He’s coming back around mid-January and can’t come back earlier due to the flight costs being higher.
I obviously don’t want to break up over this since it is temporary, and I’m trying to be very understanding of his situation. I just don’t know what to do to stop feeling so sad about it. This is my first relationship, and maybe that has something to do with how I’m feeling, but this isn’t how I imagined my first relationship would be. I also don’t want to add more stress to his life since he already has a lot going on.
How do I tell him how this is making me feel without making him feel bad or guilty? Am I being selfish and not putting myself in his shoes? Or should I say nothing, just try to push through it and wait until he comes back?
TL;DR!
I’ve been with my boyfriend for five months, but the holidays have made things hard because he’s back in his hometown across the country and we barely saw each other before he left. Long distance feels more difficult this time, and I’ve been feeling sad and disconnected. His family is having financial difficulties and he’s working two jobs, so we can only talk briefly at night. I understand his situation and don’t want to add stress or break up since this is temporary and he’ll be back mid-January, but this is my first relationship and it’s not how I imagined it, so I’m struggling with how to cope and how to tell him how I feel without making him feel guilty.