(21f) been seeing a guy who's 30M, we have done other things prior to this (blow job ect) but this time we actually had sex. it left me feeling kind of insecure..
I know that he's a "grower" for lack of a better term, and it started with just oral sex and then we tried to have sex sex, I kept having to switch between oral and him trying to go into me and not being able to stay hard, it made me feel really insecure honestly, but anyways we manage to get him semi erect after 3 or 4 attempts and he came like <30 seconds after actually getting it in.
I guess my question is if it was at all a me problem.. I know I want to directly ask but that feels insensitive if its a insecurity or something. I know he came so surely it wasnt entirely unenjoyable for him but im wondering if he just wasn't attracted to that part of my body or something.