My wife is 48 and going through perimenopause and it’s been hard on her. The other night, I initiated sex. When I started it caused her a lot of pain. We stopped and she was upset. We started reading and low estrogen can cause dryness, thinning tissue and other issues that can make it painful.
Once we got dressed, she was damn near crying. She was apologizing to me like it was somehow her fault. A lot of things have affected her as she’s gotten older. We couldn’t have kids and she apologized to me for that. Now there’s this. I try to comfort her but I don’t know what to say. She doesn’t feel feminine. She thinks she’s broken or not a good wife and a myriad of other things for biological issues that are beyond her control.
To the women in the sub who are going through something similar to my wife, how were you able to handle it? Is there anything your significant others did that made you feel better or worse? Did you work through it on your own? As a man, I think the tendency is to immediately go into fix it mode but maybe I just need to step back? Just hug her if she’s upset or crying? I just don’t know what to do. I hate seeing her like this.
She does have bloodwork scheduled to check her hormone levels and does have an appointment with her doctor after the new year and she’s going to talk to her about a prescription for estrogen cream so hopefully that will help.