I am 32F and in a 2 year relationship with my 35M boyfriend. He’s wonderful in every way but I am feeling so defeated about sex.
I feel as though nothing turns him on. Unless I specifically and directly touch his penis, he is not going to get hard. He doesn’t ever seem excited about sex or like he wants me.
Us being naked together does nothing for him. He doesn’t enjoy going down on women so that doesn’t get him going either. When he does, and can see I’m enjoying it, he is still not excited. Nor does he get hard touching me, kissing/sucking my breasts… nothing.
I’ve never orgasmed with him, but I still want to enjoy having sex with him.
I have asked him how I can get him in the mood before we ever even consider going to the bedroom, and just in general how I can make him excited. He told me he would “get back to me” about it and hasn’t answered me to date. It’s been probably a good month now since I tried to talk to him about this.
Am I just ugly? Is he just never going to be sexually interested in me? Has my “novelty” worn off so he’s bored?
Any thoughts at all would be fantastic.