My husband and I have been married for 11 yrs, with 2 kids.
On our 3rd yr, I found out he was cheating on me with one of my closest friend (my cousin’s ex gf whom my cousin had a kid with)
We then agreed to stay together for the kids and co-parent. We live in the same house but in separate bedrooms. The kids never really asked why as we work different hours and it made sense to them.
Ever since I found out, we decided we can see other people. He had a string of girlfriends from 2017 until 2025, I had 1 relationship.
His last relationship just ended early this year because the girl felt insecure about how we still get to spend time together as a family.
The kids don’t have any idea of our setup because we decided to keep them out of it as we are very much civil with each other. I also don’t want my kids to see him in a bad light since he has always been a good father to them.
After his last relationship, it somehow feels that he is trying to win me over again. Trying to patch things. But the thing is, I’m not ready. I don’t know how to tell him. My time of being “single” and just prioritizing the kids, I truly enjoyed it. Some guys do flirt with me but I just can’t seem to wrap my head round being in a relationship anymore. I just want to be free and alone, prioritize my kids, and it seems like it is where I am at my happiest and most peaceful.
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We don’t have divorce in our country and annulment is toxic.
I know some say the kids know, but from the looks of it, they don’t. And I know if they find out, it will break their hearts.
I refuse to be my daughters’ first heartbreak.