To give the question some context: I know in dating women look more for other traits in men. But of course the appearance is not unimportant. Recently I asked a woman what her man should look like (at least somesort) and she couldn't give me an answer. Is that common?
Even in case you have no clear preferences but some specimen must be there like height, weight, body form, etc.
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Fluffy hair and glasses. Lighter color eyes like blue or green. Taller than me (I’m 5’7). Chubby/fat or muscular/lean. Just not skinny lol. Dresses nice! I’m actually pretty lenient but this is my ideal/dream guy hehe
I don’t have this. I know what my ideal self will look like, but not other people.
Tall. Light skin. Piercing eyes. Nice hair. Stubble.
I had a type when I was younger and married that Y2K blond haired, blue eyed skater kid. Once I started dating after our separation, I found I didn’t really have a type. I’m 5’3″, so at least a few inches taller. I do like men with muscular arms. I’ve fallen in love with someone who is extremely good looking and I’m partial to how tall and fit he is and his gorgeous, curly hair. That’s all secondary to how tender, smart, and funny he is.
Tall, dark and handsome.
I’ll always go back to this— personality can turn a 6 into a 9, and a 9 into a 1. But if I had to say what draws me in initially from across a room, so-to-speak…
Good teeth and oral hygiene first and foremost.
As a woman who’s 5’5” I’m not much of a heightest, however I do prefer 5’10” or taller.
As far as weight/body form… prefer “average” to toned. For me, being super jacked is almost as much of a turnoff as being overweight.
Other than that, well dressed/clothes that fit, and a good haircut.
Meh… it’s flexible. I tend to gravitate towards anything (all heights, races and build). But I’ll admit I like when a man is slightly taller than me. Not too much though, we need to be in the same atmospheric level.
Close in height (I am 6’1), glasses, long curly hair, blue or light eyes, low amount of body hair and no facial hair, twink (so lean), piercings and tattoos
I have a very specific type, but I can still find people attractive who dont check every box
This past year has made me realise that I’d date all types of men in terms of looks but I definitely prefer someone with a slight build- you don’t have to go to the gym or whatever but if you’re kinda active I like that. I do prefer someone taller, facial hair is not a must but if you do have you NEED something not overly long (beard/mustache). Piercings are nice.
But the biggest thing is initiative, a man who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to make it known. If you can take initiative you could be a freaking tree and I’d find you attractive!!!!!
These are my personal preferences no one else’s! I’m also in my early 20s if that matters.
I have never dated my “type.” But I’ve always liked (neat) facial hair, long eyelashes, short nails, large hands, and good hygiene is non-negotiable ! If I could build my dream man though he’d probably look like Oded Fehr lol.
Kind face that easily smiles and laughs. Warm hands. Clean teeth. Clean kept hair or bald but not in-between. I’m a tall woman who doesn’t care about height as long as it doesn’t look like I’m kidnapping you or you’re kidnapping me. I tend to not like very skinny lads, I like some meat on the bones, but I’m also not into gymbro muscles.
Most men are handsome physically when they put in the effort, but 70% of my attraction is based on how he makes me feel. If I feel safe with him. If our values align. If he expresses himself well. If he’s kind in his heart. If he actually likes women as people. If he has standards and principles for himself. If he notices and expresses appreciation for other people’s labors and talents. All that jazz.
Hair on the head and body (but not on the face) no tattoos or piercings, slim or athletic build, 5′ 7″ or over, clean, smells good (not of weed or tobacco)
I don’t ask a lot from my dates. All I ask for is that I’m physically attracted to him and that he is not a raging asshole and treats me well. I never ask from men anything that I can’t bring to the table myself.
5’10 – and taller, I’m 5’5 but a lot of my shoes make me about 5’7 so that’s the ideal height. Hair idc, I’ve dated bald to long hair and all are okay. If anything I’m more attracted to bald or shaved men. Pretty eyes but honestly color doesn’t matter, more just the eye shape and expressiveness is important. I think getting adequate sleep probably lends itself to more expressive eyes. A beard is very much preferred. Not attracted to super skinny but like you don’t need muscles either, just some presence in your build. I want a man who can pick me up easily lol
I have a type but personality trumps type 90% of the time. I like a meaty guy with red hair and a beard. Height doesn’t matter so much as long as he’s as tall or taller than me. I’ve dated my type exactly one time. All men have something unique and sexy about them.
There are many ideal types looks wise. Nice jaw, athletic with visible muscle, good teeth and nice clothing would pertain to all those types. Height wise 5’10 or taller (and average male hight in my region is 5’11) though that’s less important than the rest. No piercings.
Its personality for me.
Can’t be too funny. Too serious. Too smart. Too dumb.
Can’t act like his job is his personality. Can’t take himself too seriously. Needs to find me amazing end feel content with Me. Manly. Leader. Cherishes me.
With that being my non conditional and hasn’t changed in my life ever.
What’s changed is my physical preference. I was old my self I like dark straight hair and dark eyes and caramel skin. A guy that was manly.
But with time and years I accepted other type of men
Granted Ive been only attrzcted to 3 guys in my life
– blonde and black hair
– blue eyes abd black eyes
-*from my heigh to taller.
What’s stayed the same amongst them is thebpersonslity that most men lack.
Someone with a job, practices basic hygiene (brushes teeth, puts on deodorant, washes clothes, showers daily). Someone who keeps a tidy home. Doesn’t have to be spotless but I should be able to walk through his home and not trip over anything. Someone who doesn’t vote for Donald Trump. Someone who doesn’t say “both sides are the same” and chooses not to vote at all or vote third party. Someone who doesn’t try to sleep with you right away and instead takes time to get to know you.
As far physical appearance – I’m not particular. I’ve liked blond men, dark haired men and yes, even gingers. My only ask is that they not be obese. I don’t mind a little overweight but not to the point where it’s difficult for him to do basic activities. Height: the same as or taller than me. And I’m short, so most men easily clear that hurdle.
I have a pretty clear type tbh, but stray from it a lot. He doesn’t have to check every box, as long as he isn’t the opposite of everything.
Somewhat short, babyfaced, twink-ish shape, no beard and little body hair/no chest hair. Bright eyes, good skin, cute smile, well-shaped butt. Blond or ginger naturally, might dye his hair a little in a colour that suits him.
Dresses in kind of a nerdy alternative style normally, maybe some piercings or tattoos, not afraid of looking a bit feminine at times and loves dressing up for parties and events.
Tall. Light skin. Pointed nose. slim/fit and neat.
For me, I notice if he’s taller than me, takes care of his body, and looks strong. I don’t need him perfectly built, I just like knowing my man can carry me with ease. Thats how I measure it lol.
A nice smile, strong facial structure, soft eyes. I love all eye colors, but there’s something about light brown eyes that really gets to me.
Of course, a big part of attraction has to do with his character, it changes everything. I need to feel safe around him, to feel seen and considered.
Love man that expresses himself right and cares for his appearance (very good hygiene, active, healthy habits). Oh and discipline… dont even need to elaborate on that.
As a gay man, otters. Not the animal, the man subtype. Hairy, slim bodied and more masculine looking guys.
Right around 6ft. Thicker but not exactly beefy. Large hands. That’s really all that matters to me. Most of my attraction (like the large majority) comes from the way he treats me and his personality.
I’ve dated between 5’11 light hair, blue eyes & athletic to 6’4” dark hair, dark eyes & broad/heavier set. And a range around it as well.
My ideal is somewhere in the 6ft range, dark hair, fit but not overly muscular, and I’m a sucker for green eyes now apparently. All the crushes I’ve had over the last couple years are the same attractive nerd type.
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Height isn’t too big of a deal as I’m 5’4 and most men are taller than me or the short guys are the same height.
I like broader more bulky men who value their health the same way I do. I love going to the gym, I love healthy eating, active lifestyle etc. I’m admittedly not into the “dad bods” everyone seems to be talking about lately, but i don’t expect them to be perfect and ripped, just healthy and most the dad bods I see don’t live a healthy lifestyle.
Tall skinny lanky guys isn’t my thing. I have a solid curvy body shape and I’m not talking about the new obese curvy, the old curvy. I lift every weight and I don’t want a guy who looks like I might break in half when I get on top of him. I want him to be able to throw me around.
Have facial hair, dont have facial hair, what colour it is, what colour his eyes are… they all don’t matter. What clothes he likes to wear or lack of… I also don’t care about. Im not here to change his appearance, I juat value health the most.
I don’t have a type physically but I do want to date someone who is a decent human being, has a sense of humor (he is going to need it LOL), loves animals, and wants to be with me.
Dream imaginary person? He’s 5’7”-up, 160-200 lbs top, wears glasses and either has sideburns, or is clean shaven with short hair or at most has a short Tony Stark type mustache goatee, listens to and supports NPR, is not addicted to drugs or alcohol.
I lean demi sexual so personality and how I feel with someone matters more than physical looks. I’ve had a few serious relationships and the men were all different looks wise. Different races. Different height. Different weight. What attracts me most is sense of humor. Effort. Good hygiene.
Are you trying to find common features so you can work towards something?
I like good eye contact and easy to laugh
physically none of the guys i’ve dated look alike, but i always go for the same things: tall & slim w/ big but not massive lips – these also happen to be things people could use to describe me
my type/ideal man is a pretty vague version of me in male form
personality wise, i like a range so i’m not too specific about that
My dream guy:
6′ tall
Broad shoulders
Curly hair, any color but carrot red
Any color eyes but brown or hazel
Doesn’t have to be built, but be built tough
No more than 40 lbs overweight
High sexual drive
Everything/ anything else is gravy.
Someone tall who i find attractive. Thats the only common thread between the men i’ve dated. I don’t know what I find hot of the top of my head, but I know when I see it. Or its a combination of things that makes someone attractive rather than just “brown hair” for me.
A little bit taller than me like 5’4 or 5’5 at least, clean, wears punk styled clothing, skinny or average, and no facial hair or chest hair.
I have no idea about the body but I realized I only liked dark hair men in my life
Well I prefer around 6’ and muscularish bc I’m normal to tall and solid…and I like the feeling of not being the giant and if someone picks me up, which is nice, I can tell it’s not a struggle for them.
That being said my favorite people have been basically my height and weight lol bc although looks do matter, the person matters more (unless like everyone says…if you have poor hygiene…buhbye). If you cute (to me) kind and funny the preferences kinda fall to the wayside
I’m 5’3 so a bit taller than me. I like blond hair blue eyes. He can have facial hair as long as it kept. Can have long hair or short. Brunette, blond , . Like the classic surfer dude.Doesnt need to be really fit or anything. Average. To be kind and loyal and nerdy too aha im a gamer, introverted. Not a party person I dont drink or smoke. So I would definitely appreciate the same.
44f I find conventionally attractive men attractive initially as we all do, but continued interest is based on personality and my comfort in their presence. Many men give me predator vibes that I can’t explain but I can’t deny.
Being able to converse with intelligence, a desire for mutual understanding and wit are the things that make me want to spend more time. The only physical attributes that I cannot tolerate are obesity and poor personal hygiene.
I know men balk when women say physical features aren’t important. Of course they are. But they are only as important as your personality is tolerable.
At least 5’7 , preferably muscular but not too muscular though not as small in size as myself. Rather us not be able to fit into same skinny jeans. Not overweight. Full head of hair. Nice hands and clean trimmed nails.
Tall and bearded (if no beard, then perfectly clean shaven. One or the other. lol)
When it comes to appearances I am not all that picky. I’d like him to be as tall or taller for reference I am 5’6”. Clean, well groomed, I am not wild for facial hair but if it is styled and groomed I am fine with it. No facial tattoos not wild about facial piercings. Dress clean and situationally appropriate. That’s about it when it comes to looks.