For beginning context. My wife got pregnant last February and we had our daughter 2 months ago. This time last year I discovered my wife had been texting her ex regularly for about a year. We worked though it, she took responsibility, blocked him, and when he reached out in the future twice she immediately told me and blocked him on other things she forgot about. From what I can tell and the messages I saw they never met up. Some of their last messages the ex brought it up, but my wife said it would be weird and this is right before I found out. She got pregnant a few months after this.
The problem is this kid looks nothing like me. She has redish hair and there aren’t any red heads in our immediate family. We have red head cousins, but only a couple so it’s possible it’s just a dormant gene or something. But her hair color pretty much matches her ex. Our baby also has hip dysplasia, which is sometimes genetic but also potentially random and no one on my side of the family has ever had it. Our first born was a spitting image of me and this one doesn’t resemble me at all
Since I have proof my wife didn’t meet up with her ex I feel kinda stupid having a feeling she might not be mine. I can’t think of any possible time they would’ve met up after I found out, and meeting up after I found out would be incredibly stupid seeing as I saw that she blocked him and checked frequently to make sure he was staying blocked. I never found any messages or anything since since I confronted her. We share our location and I checked on it frequently. I also don’t think she has it in her to cheat, especially after I found out they were talking.
I could go out and buy an at home test, but they’re not cheap and since we share a bank account I would pretty much have to lie about what I bought. If I do tell her I want a test I can see her being very upset thinking she would cheat at all, let alone after being caught texting. From what I saw they never discussed anything inappropriate or ever met up, which is pushing me to think I’m just overreacting. What are your thoughts? Maybe I just needed to vent idk