I dated a woman for about 6–7 weeks, around 6 dates in total. We were in constant contact, texting daily, building emotional closeness. She opened up about past relationship trauma and said she wanted to take things slow, which I respected.
But the reality was this: no kiss, no physical escalation, no romantic progression at all. Despite that, she talked about future plans with me, including a trip. She told me she liked me, felt safe with me, cared about me. Over time though, her effort dropped. Replies became slower, initiative faded, and the dynamic felt increasingly one sided.
When I finally asked directly where I stood, she told me she likes me as a person, that I’m “perfect on paper”, but that she only sees me in a friendly way and can’t give me romantic feelings right now. She suggested staying friends and “seeing what happens”.
At that point it clicked: I was giving boyfriend level emotional investment while getting friend level return. I didn’t want to stay in a holding pattern hoping attraction might appear later, so I ended it, cancelled the trip, and cut contact.
I’m not interested in being someone’s emotional support while they figure themselves out.
Question is simple: was this emotional unavailability or breadcrumbing, or did I walk away too fast?
Looking for honest takes.