I’ve been dealing with this feeling for about 3 years now.
I often notice that when I ask people to hang out, they say they’re busy — then I see them the next day hanging out with others.
In university, I can be having a good time with people, then suddenly the vibe changes and I feel unwanted.
What hurts the most is that some people open up to me and talk about their problems for a long time, but when I try to talk about myself, they seem uninterested or cut the conversation short.
I’ve questioned myself a lot — maybe I said something wrong, maybe I’m boring, maybe I talk too much or too little. But I don’t believe one wrong sentence should make people slowly drift away like this.
I’m honestly not looking for drama or validation. I just want peace of mind. I don’t want to constantly feel like someone is upset with me or that I’m unwanted.
Has anyone experienced this before?
How do you deal with this feeling without losing yourself or becoming emotionally closed off?