26M and fairly new to dating in my opinion, only really been doing it for the last 3 years.
I have no problem planning the first and even the second date if I feel like we get along, but all these relationships eventually just kind of fade out because if I wait for them to make the next move we never speak again. Even if they act like they like me, they still seem to be very passive participants in the relationship. Whenever I try to ask about this people always tell me it’s the man’s job to pursue the woman, but I can’t really be attracted to someone that doesn’t show they like me as well. Physical attraction is one thing but I need actual chemistry for me to want the relationship too, not just one sided affection.
I try to communicate this to my partners but it’s always met with anger or acknowledgment with no change afterwards. Am I doing something wrong? Am I genuinely expected to be the only one giving effort? Because if so then I’d rather just give up lol