I’ve talked to two guys recently. With the first one, we talked for a month and decided to go on a date. Two hours before the date, he dropped a bomb and said he hadn’t gotten over his ex yet and felt wrong going out with me. It was just the talking stage, so no hard feelings.
Then I talked to a second guy for three weeks and dated him for five weeks. He didn’t love-bomb me, cared for me and gave me clear signals that he really liked me, even confessing while he was drunk. When I asked where we were headed and brought up being official, he ghosted me for two days, then came back and said he also hadn’t gotten over his ex. Mind you, he told me on our second date that he was 100% over her. He broke up with her a year ago.
At this point, I’m honestly scared of dating guys with exes. If you’re not ready, why are you on dating apps?