(Not entirely sure this fits in this flair, but I thought Skill improvement was the closest.)
This was a sexual partner I had almost a year ago, and it was the first and last time we ever had sex. It’s a memory that still sticks with me because it was so unexpected, and also because I really liked him.
We had been dating for a couple of months before we had sex, and the sexual tension between us was really high. We were basically doing everything except (PIV) sex, and we had very strong feelings for each other. For context, I was very new to sex at the time. He talked a lot about the sex with his previous girlfriend, who he’d been with for three years. He told me it was good and even shared techniques he used, and I was comfortable with him taking the lead.
When we finally had sex, i noticed that his thrusts weren’t rhythmic and were awkward, even though he was clearly enjoying himself. During sex, I asked him to be a bit rougher because I thought it might help him be more rhythmic and he seemed really enthusiastic about it, but it didn’t really change anything. It honestly didn’t feel like anything and there was no difference in roughness at all.
The foreplay also wasn’t great for me, and overall the sex just wasn’t good for me. We had sex for two rounds, and looking back at it now, the awkward thrusting didn’t get in the way of his enjoyment because he came both times.
His thrusting just wasn’t rhythmic — it felt really awkward, and that’s the only way I can describe it. I noticed it in missionary, doggy, and even standing doggy. The only time it felt more rhythmic was when I was on top.
I’ve never experienced this with other men, which is why it’s stuck with me so much. Looking back now, I wonder if it was nerves, anxiety, or something to do with pressure, but I’m not sure.
Have any men experienced this before? And if you have, why do you think you struggled with it?