Went to bed last night and my husband reached over and pulled me into my favorite relaxing cuddling position where I feel so loved. Then he started fingering me, kissing my neck, etc to "tease" me and turn me on. All the things that usually work when I'm in that headspace to be intimate. Instead it felt like his touch now came with the expectation of sex and was hard for me to get into it. I froze.
Then he jokingly asked what would I do if he rolled over and said goodnight. I told him I'd go to sleep. He got bummed out and I apparently ruined the mood because he did so much work to turn me on and I just wanted to sleep.
Here's the honest truth – I wanted to want sex with him. We always have fun and enjoy ourselves. So why did it go wrong?