me and my gf got into a mini argument over this, got context we’ve been together for 13 months and are long distance but we call/text and spend time together literally everyday and have since getting together i love her alot and love spending time with her daily but. she has said alot she misses me now most of the time i’ll miss her too but im able to handle it fine if we go a few hours without hanging sometimes and enjoy my alone time sometimes and i feel like that’s normal.. if she ever says she misses me and i don’t say it back she’ll get upset with me and has said “you’re supposed to say your miss me back even if you don’t mean it” since then ive feel pressured to just lie on the already few occasions when i don’t miss her back to lie and say it. a few days ago she said it to me quite literally a few mins after we hung out and spent lovely time together for about 5 hours i didn’t say it cause i didn’t miss her at that moment but reassured and suggested her that we spend more time together again later that day and that i couldn’t wait too instead. when we did she was acting weird and being quite the whole time and gone short cut responses like she was upset and she told
me that she was bummed out and sad that and felt like i didn’t miss her as much (which was the truth cause we spent the whole day together prior) but even so i still wanted to spend time with her so she felt better and why i suggested we hangout more! she told me she was upset with herself too because she didn’t deserve to feel sad over this and didn’t want to feel immature about it but couldn’t help it.
i said it’s ok to feel that way- i said i didn’t understand it but she got mad at me saying she doesn’t need me to understand her feelings but just be reassuring and supportive which i feel like i was.. and was trying to be. i ended up feeling frustrated and upset myself cause we go through arguments like this somewhat often and it leaves me feeling like i can never do
enough sometimes to make
her happy even when i jeopardize my own personal feelings/moods. i always try and put hers first but it ends up with her projecting these insecurities (which she said herself) onto me.
did i handle this poorly or was i not reassuring enough?
tl;dr my girlfriend gets mad and makes me feel guilty when i don’t say i miss her back everytime on a daily basis, even tho we’ve spent hours together/she left for 20 mins am i a ass for that?