I talked to my girlfriend today and she told me she’s sad and unhappy in our relationship. I feel similarly, but I think I’m still more hopeful. Whenever we talk about our issues, she seems completely done.
Today she admitted that part of why she’s still with me is because she’s afraid of how I’d handle a breakup. We dated before, and I didn’t cope well when we split. Especially after I found out she started seeing others right away. I didn’t call her crying or anything like that, but I did fall apart emotionally. Since we live in a small city we did sometimes keep in touch, and I would always tell her how much I still wanted us to try. She saw how I struggled with her seeing others.
I told her I don’t want to be with someone who stays out of pity. She says it’s not pity, but that her worry about me does play a role in staying. Does this mean it’s already over?
For context: we dated for 3 years, were apart for 2, and are now together again for 1.5 years.