My boyfriend and I had been dating for a little over a year now. I was living in a dorm at college when we first got together and he lived with his mom (he’s not in college just worked). However most nights I would drive over there or him to mine if my roommate was gone to sleep together since we were so inseparable. In August of this year he asked me to move in to his mom’s house and not get a dorm because he had gotten a new job so we might be able to move out soon. In November we started looking for apartments and the first week of December we signed the lease.
Almost 2 weeks ago now we got into a huge argument at night where we yelled, cried, and he said he was leaving and that this wasn’t normal. He didn’t leave, but after that night he started acting completely different. He started shutting me out, ignoring me, coming back home late from hanging out with his coworkers smelling like alcohol, just to name a few. It got so bad I was getting panic attacks and he had to take me to the ER at 1 am like a week ago. After that my mom came to stay the day w me at our apartment to make sure I was okay. He didn’t even ask throughout the day how I was or anything. When he came back home that day I confronted him and started crying asking him why he was being this way and he told me to be quiet and stop crying, that he needed his space and that he didn’t want this anymore. I ran out crying to my mom who was still in the living room because I was feeling a panic attack again. I grabbed a couple things and my mom and I drove back to my parent’s house that night.
It’s been almost a week now and I don’t know what to do. I’ve been trying to not contact him but it’s so hard bc I miss him all the time and cry about it nonstop. Everyone in my life is so shocked bc this is the complete opposite of the loving and affectionate guy who I’ve been basically bound to my hip for the past year. After I texted him the other day he replied and told me he was done and he’s not gonna change his mind.
Here’s the issue I hate my parent’s house. That’s why i dormed even tho college wasn’t that far away. They’re not the cleanest people and I’ve honestly just been sleeping in the couch the past couple days. I’m debating going back to the apartment bc it honestly doesn’t feel very fair right now. I paid the security deposit to the apartment, I paid for all the furniture and it put it together, I’m paying for the electricity bill, and it’s like for what. He gets to do whatever he wants w his life and come back to a nice apartment and I’m at my parents. Why he can’t he stay with his mom. It’s not like I can even get a dorm right now bc school is out.
(Also idk if adding this helps in any way but his mom and I are really close and we’ve actually talked about this we both think it’s his new job and his bum ass co workers that are getting to his head but who knows cause he refuses to actually tell me what caused this. He’s even been ignoring all her calls and texts)
I honestly just don’t know what to do about the whole situation. could use some advice?