Hi! I’m 20F and my boyfriend is 20M. we’ve recently started dating and were friends prior to that. so far in our relationship, every time we’ve tried to have sex (4 times over the span of 2 weeks) he hasn’t been able to stay hard and he doesn’t finish. he’s hard the entire time we’re doing anything else (even if he’s just eating me out) i don’t doubt that he’s attracted to me, but i’m starting to get freaked out. he has only had this problem once before one other time, so i can’t help to think it’s something i’m doing. i feel really insecure because i’m worried i’m not his type and we’re together because we seem “perfect” on paper. his last gf was crazy (he has a restraining order against her) and they hooked up for almost 2 years and im like “okay so you can get off to some crazy girl you claim not to like but this is apparently not working????“ but i’m also worried if i express how anxious ive been about his problem (it’s not necessarily a problem i just don’t know what else to call it), it’s only going to make it worse. we’ve talk about it and he says he’s not used the feeling and he’s been getting nervous before because he’s worried about it happening again. i’m just really worried im not doing it for him and he’s just straight up not sexually attracted to me. i’ve tried to be really understanding and tell him “don’t worry, just enjoy yourself, putting pressure won’t help” so im extra worry if i talk about how much something he literally can’t control makes me feel insecure or doubtful of his attraction, it’s going to add more pressure and make the problem worse.