Might not be the best flair. I’m mid 20s F and my BF is an early 30s M. We’ve been dating for one and a half year and we have a great sexual chemistry and very compatible libidos: sex almost every day unless physically impossible, very open communication in all sexual regards, the greatest orgasms I have ever had.
I was a lesbian before meeting him and feel like I have plenty of experience with different types of sex because of it. One thing I never really explored was anal. The farthest I’ve gone was with an ex-girlfriend who tried it on me without my consent and with no preparation—in an attempt to ignore how much I didn’t like what happened, I dismissed it as something that probably wasn’t for me anyway.
My boyfriend started playing with some light stimulation with fingers/tongue, eventually some fingering and finally we discussed how I would feel about having full on anal sex. Long story short, I started LOVING anal. It feels so great to have him inside me in all ways, it turns me on sooo much! Even when watching pornography, I find myself clicking on anal videos a lot. I think it might be related with how many of the videos I used to watch were enacting CNC fantasies and usually anal would be the moment where there was more pain involved (I’m a masochist).
Anyway, my boyfriend got me used to always having anal stimulation when having sex, even vaginal/oral. Like we could’ve been doing PIV for 15 minutes, the moment he inserts his finger in my ass I will most certainly orgasm in less than 2 minutes. And now I feel very insecure about not being able to orgasm in other ways and get in my head a lot because of it.
I tend to get a lot in my head during sex anyway because of anxiety and have been practicing mindfulness for years to get the most out of sex, but this seems to be more than that. Like, is this whole thing weird? Do I even have to do something about it? I have orgasmed plenty of times because of oral since we’ve been together, but since we started anal it feels like I need to have it in order to orgasm and I want to be able to orgasm in all ways. But on the other hand, I feel like if I enjoy anal I’m most likely just overthinking this whole thing, my boyfriend never once complained about how much I love anal, he really likes it too.
All advice is appreciated! Thanks.