Why is it that every relationship I’ve been in, the sex is so often, like 2-3 times a day in the first few months, then slowly get less and less frequent. It’s so fucking frustrating to me, because I get told “oh that’s normal” well it isn’t for me.
My current partner I won’t see for like a week or two, we live separate and I’m ready to jump on him by the time I see him, but it’s just like he isn’t on the same wavelength as that. It’s usually me initiating, I’ve been told I initiate too late in the day, he’s too tired, just not in the mood. He says he “doesn’t know he’s in the mood sometimes” until I initiate, which begs the question is he even attracted to me…? Even if we can’t have sex, eg if I’m on my period, I still want to give him blowjobs, I love doing it, but I wish I didn’t have to initiate it and I’ve asked him to more but he just hasn’t.
I try hinting, I’ll stroke down his chest, his thigh, kiss him with tongue, wanting him to start it but he just doesn’t. It’s annoying because at the start he wanted to so frequently, it almost feels deceiving, it feels like men just get bored of whoever they’re with after a while. He always tells me how sexy, beautiful etc I am, but it really doesn’t feel that way with his lack of desire.
I’m 25… I personally want to fuck 2-3 times a day with my partner, and this just doesn’t feel like enough. Everything else in the relationship is great, he makes me really happy.. but this feels so frustrating to me, am I a dick for this? We both agreed to stop watching porn 6 month ago or so but I honestly find myself tempted lately because of the frustration. I want him to WANT me, as equally as I want him.