So i'm 20 F, in a situation where both my parents and by boyfriend 21 M have strict boundaries which i don't know how to go around and not disappoint both and myself.( we've been together for 2 years and a bit).
Starting, my parents are really strict when it comes to going out past 5pm and especially now in winter being home before 6pm(outside university). In my defence i haven't really tried to push the limits as much regarding going out because 1. i knew they'll always say no and 2. i haven't been asked to go out by my friends in such a dire situation where i WANTED to go out badly so i never really rebelled.
My friend invited me to this house party on new years eve to celebrate and i was trying to ease a lie to my mother if am able to go over to my friends house where her parents and other friends will be at and i was able to somehow move her (but mainly because of the lie) and if i was to push it enough i think i would finally be allowed for the first time since i was 10yo to stay overnight at someone's house.
Now the issue with my boyfriend is that house parties and i guess clubs too are a boundary of his. We've had this discussion and at the time it wasn't like i was gonna be able to go anywhere anytime soon so i just agreed. i thought it would be a problem once i moved out because I KNOW i want to go clubbing, well mainly raves for my favourite music genre of electro pop ( he wouldn't mind if he came with me ). Even if it looks like a situation of jealousy (i kinda see it as that), he is adamant with his boundaries and doesn't participate in them either, going so far to no having any female friends because "he'd like that in return"(- trust me you couldn't force me to have a male friend )
Anyways i'm stuck in this position where i can finally move my parents in a situation where we both don't end up hating each other and ruining the bond (well i'll lie but as long as i'll be home safe what can they do after ) but i will very much upset my boyfriend. I'm tired of celebrating the same dead new years at home with 3 family members and going bed at 1am. Not being able to go out like my friends is definitely ruining my mental health (i have uninstalled instagram BECAUSE i don't want i don't want to keep on seeing people going out – even if they didn't have fun they still went out ) but i knew i was gonna end up in this predicament where my boyfriend will not be accepting of my desires either( always siding with my parents every time i complain about their strict rules)
So what can i really do? how do i end up not being disappointed another new years and still keep everyone happy?
TL;DR: strict parents MAY allow me to finally go out but that will go against my boyfriends wishes