This has been a long standing issue. For example, she regularly comes into my room when I'm out and steals anything she wants (it's mostly clothes or makeup, but one time she stole a razor and used it where the sun don't shine.). She never retrieves it and usually just leaves it on the floor of the bathroom or somewhere in her room, leaving me to look for it everywhere until I find it.
Anyway, I went camping and was out for 4 days. When i came back she told me she had slept in my bed. I was a bit confused and also weirded out, cause i see no reason to do that when you've got your own bed and bedroom. She said it was more comfortable and spacious but still… i don't see why one would do this.
This is the part that bothered me most, however.
I tried my hardest to have a civil, calm conversation with her. Explained that i didn't like that and didn't want her to do it again.
Her reaction was to stare at me the entire time like i was crazy, going on her phone, and doing a gesture with her hands like this 🤏 basically like im saying some bullshit.
I've been going to therapy which was what enabled me to even have this conversation at all. but it was still incredibly hard. My relationship with her has been somewhat strained for a long time, so i tried my hardest to have this conversation hoping it would at least be heard and be a step towards fixing our relationship. But the way she responded made me feel incredibly unheard, disrespected, and honestly stupid for thinking it would work.
I understand she's 13 and a dumb teenager, but I don't think it's acceptable. She should know better and that some things are wrong, in my opinion.
Any other time i tried talking to her, granted wasn't as calm and civil, but nothing has ever worked. My parents don't do anything about it, i have talked to them about this.
Reddit, what do I do? How do I deal with this type of behaviour? I cannot share a home with someone who does not respect me.
Thank you in advance.
TLDR: sister slept in my bed and regularly steals my stuff. disregarded me when i tried to talk to her calmly.