Ladies, what is one thing you were absolutely terrified to try, failed miserably at, and then realized… the world didn’t end?
December 23, 2025
Ladies, what is one thing you were absolutely terrified to try, failed miserably at, and then realized… the world didn’t end?
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Got a pixie cut and later on micro bangs
Ordering food. I was like 9, when we had to call restaurants to order food when delivery apps weren’t a mainstream thing. My parents always wanted me to do it since I grew up really socially anxious and introverted. Also I just hated talking on the phone, it’s probably a generational thing? A gen-z thing maybe. I would cry each time, hyperventilate and run away and they’d be a little disappointed. One day they dialled the number, gave me the phone and ran away, leaving their order on a paper for me to recite. My voice shook, hands shook, my brain was going at mach 3. I finished the order though, the guy just repeated it once and hung up. 40mins later we got our food and that was that. The world didn’t end, my heart didn’t explode, my brain didn’t ooze out of my ears and the guy on the other end didnt make fun of me, he just sounded like he couldn’t wait for his shift to end. It felt good!
False lashes
Having kids. Surprisingly the world didn’t end when I couldn’t.
Mathematics.
Being single and dating. I stayed in an 8 year, miserable relationship. I tried online dating for 2 months and found my husband, who is a successful tech entrepreneur.
I was also terrified of having bloodwork done thanks to childhood trauma. I worked w a hypnotist, and now I can do it with minimal stress.
Giving my first BJ, I was so nervous!
Life.
Cooking. Every single time I try to make the simplest recipes they turn out bad. So I gave up (for now at least)
Giving a presentation to over 100 people, with a Q&A afterwards. I didn’t totally bomb but it was lame AF and one attendee refused to let me respond to his questions- but i didn’t die or get fired or lose industry friends
Marriage
Eye contact during sex
Not enough people got the “failed miserably” part of the memo.
Anything public speaking related to work. Doesn’t matter how prepared I am I’m always nervous. I had to speak at a public committee last week. Not many people but representing clients – the meeting was live broadcast as well and I knew my boss was watching. It went fine and the clients were very happy – even got a well done from colleagues and my boss but the lead up is hell.
Going to college and then trying to get a job in my field. I didn’t want to go to college, hated high school so much and wanted to just be done with it but my parents had school money saved for me so I felt like I had to go. My GPA wasn’t amazing and I just kind of got by through school. Failed so miserably trying to get a job after graduation, never even got an interview. I ended up working in restaurants for a while, just like I would have if I didn’t go to college, and everything turned out fine!
2026 will be 10 years since I graduated, and I’m honestly glad it didn’t work out because I would have been miserable working in that field anyways.
I moved out of state and tried to live on my own and pursue a career that I thought I would enjoy. Failed big time! But I learned a lot abt myself.
Small talk.
I’ve always been terrible at small talk. Not in a cute “oh I’m shy” way, but in a “conversation dies and I’m standing there like” way. Meanwhile everyone else seems to do it effortlessly.
I also come from a culture where small talk with strangers is basically a civic duty, and as a woman you’re expected to be smiley, chatty, and emotionally available at all times. If you’re not, congrats – you’re rude and stuck up.
One day in my 30s I had a beautiful realization of fuck it. I’m introverted. I don’t enjoy forced conversation. I’m done trying to channel my non existent *bubbly* extrovert personality just to make other people comfortable.
I’m happier. The world didn’t end. I’d say it’s a win for all.
Crocheting. My 9 year old insists that I learn, but for the love of all the gods, I can’t do it and the world will keep on going.
Being in a relationship. My life is a million times better without some whiny dusty man child in my life ☺️
Putting myself out there and getting rejected.
Having children. The number of times I have heard “Any idiot can have a baby” and I finish that in my head “…except me”. But I have survived.
I wasn’t terrified to try, though. Just failed miserably. Though trying to get help (medically) was terrifying. Not sure this counts for your post.
Trying to be “equal” to men by doing everything the way men do.
That failed miserably for me.
I eventually realised equality doesn’t mean sameness. Men and women are equal in value, but we’re different in nature, strengths and roles. Trying to erase that difference just left me burnt out and disconnected from myself.
I’m not a feminist in the modern sense I believe in mutual respect, shared dignity and complementarity rather than competition.
I kissed my best friend in hs. He rejected me and felt I had done something without his consent. It hurt, I felt terrible and had to let go of a years long crush. We talked it out, and then we both moved on. Still friends.
[removed]
Marriage.
✨Fitting in✨
I’ve just never been good at it and I did try. Failed. Failed. Failed.
Gave up.
Then life got better.
A career in academia. I do not have the temperament for a publish or perish model. I want to be sure, I want to know something is correct before it goes out, and the level of blind confidence needed stresses me out. I was anxious and depressed and clearly struggling. However, industry, where it needs to be right and you need to be sure before moving forward, suits me perfectly, so I changed careers and did fine.
For me it was learning to trust my own perception of myself. I spent years thinking I wasn’t “enough” in different ways. Turns out the world doesn’t end when you stop judging yourself so harshly.
Complex math equations.
a lot of things
recently going out like 40km away from my home thru metro
i asked my classmate that i will get lost i dont how to change metro and all
he taught me everything in just a day
and a few days back i went there alone. and it felt so easyy now
30 comments
Got a pixie cut and later on micro bangs
Ordering food. I was like 9, when we had to call restaurants to order food when delivery apps weren’t a mainstream thing. My parents always wanted me to do it since I grew up really socially anxious and introverted. Also I just hated talking on the phone, it’s probably a generational thing? A gen-z thing maybe. I would cry each time, hyperventilate and run away and they’d be a little disappointed. One day they dialled the number, gave me the phone and ran away, leaving their order on a paper for me to recite. My voice shook, hands shook, my brain was going at mach 3. I finished the order though, the guy just repeated it once and hung up. 40mins later we got our food and that was that. The world didn’t end, my heart didn’t explode, my brain didn’t ooze out of my ears and the guy on the other end didnt make fun of me, he just sounded like he couldn’t wait for his shift to end. It felt good!
False lashes
Having kids. Surprisingly the world didn’t end when I couldn’t.
Mathematics.
Being single and dating. I stayed in an 8 year, miserable relationship. I tried online dating for 2 months and found my husband, who is a successful tech entrepreneur.
I was also terrified of having bloodwork done thanks to childhood trauma. I worked w a hypnotist, and now I can do it with minimal stress.
Giving my first BJ, I was so nervous!
Life.
Cooking. Every single time I try to make the simplest recipes they turn out bad. So I gave up (for now at least)
Giving a presentation to over 100 people, with a Q&A afterwards. I didn’t totally bomb but it was lame AF and one attendee refused to let me respond to his questions- but i didn’t die or get fired or lose industry friends
Marriage
Eye contact during sex
Not enough people got the “failed miserably” part of the memo.
Anything public speaking related to work. Doesn’t matter how prepared I am I’m always nervous. I had to speak at a public committee last week. Not many people but representing clients – the meeting was live broadcast as well and I knew my boss was watching. It went fine and the clients were very happy – even got a well done from colleagues and my boss but the lead up is hell.
Going to college and then trying to get a job in my field. I didn’t want to go to college, hated high school so much and wanted to just be done with it but my parents had school money saved for me so I felt like I had to go. My GPA wasn’t amazing and I just kind of got by through school. Failed so miserably trying to get a job after graduation, never even got an interview. I ended up working in restaurants for a while, just like I would have if I didn’t go to college, and everything turned out fine!
2026 will be 10 years since I graduated, and I’m honestly glad it didn’t work out because I would have been miserable working in that field anyways.
I moved out of state and tried to live on my own and pursue a career that I thought I would enjoy. Failed big time! But I learned a lot abt myself.
Small talk.
I’ve always been terrible at small talk. Not in a cute “oh I’m shy” way, but in a “conversation dies and I’m standing there like” way. Meanwhile everyone else seems to do it effortlessly.
I also come from a culture where small talk with strangers is basically a civic duty, and as a woman you’re expected to be smiley, chatty, and emotionally available at all times. If you’re not, congrats – you’re rude and stuck up.
One day in my 30s I had a beautiful realization of fuck it. I’m introverted. I don’t enjoy forced conversation. I’m done trying to channel my non existent *bubbly* extrovert personality just to make other people comfortable.
I’m happier. The world didn’t end. I’d say it’s a win for all.
Crocheting. My 9 year old insists that I learn, but for the love of all the gods, I can’t do it and the world will keep on going.
Being in a relationship. My life is a million times better without some whiny dusty man child in my life ☺️
Putting myself out there and getting rejected.
Having children. The number of times I have heard “Any idiot can have a baby” and I finish that in my head “…except me”. But I have survived.
I wasn’t terrified to try, though. Just failed miserably. Though trying to get help (medically) was terrifying. Not sure this counts for your post.
Trying to be “equal” to men by doing everything the way men do.
That failed miserably for me.
I eventually realised equality doesn’t mean sameness. Men and women are equal in value, but we’re different in nature, strengths and roles. Trying to erase that difference just left me burnt out and disconnected from myself.
I’m not a feminist in the modern sense I believe in mutual respect, shared dignity and complementarity rather than competition.
I kissed my best friend in hs. He rejected me and felt I had done something without his consent. It hurt, I felt terrible and had to let go of a years long crush. We talked it out, and then we both moved on. Still friends.
[removed]
Marriage.
✨Fitting in✨
I’ve just never been good at it and I did try. Failed. Failed. Failed.
Gave up.
Then life got better.
A career in academia. I do not have the temperament for a publish or perish model. I want to be sure, I want to know something is correct before it goes out, and the level of blind confidence needed stresses me out. I was anxious and depressed and clearly struggling. However, industry, where it needs to be right and you need to be sure before moving forward, suits me perfectly, so I changed careers and did fine.
For me it was learning to trust my own perception of myself. I spent years thinking I wasn’t “enough” in different ways. Turns out the world doesn’t end when you stop judging yourself so harshly.
Complex math equations.
a lot of things
recently going out like 40km away from my home thru metro
i asked my classmate that i will get lost i dont how to change metro and all
he taught me everything in just a day
and a few days back i went there alone. and it felt so easyy now