I [19F] and my boyfriend [26M] have been dating a little over a month. I really like him, he’s very smart, kind, and caring. We are very compatible in many ways- at least in my opinion.
Today during a texting conversation, I asked him directly, almost jokingly, if he watches porn. He said sometimes, but he’s “not really proud of it and want to/should stop.” I was very taken aback by this, because truth be told I was not expecting a yes. I do not watch or engage in any content remotely similar, and I’ve never been close with anyone who is either. I’m really not comfortable with my partner doing that, and I’m not sure how to express that to him- or if that’s even something I should express. I honestly just feel very icky and…ugly? With this situation. To me it almost feels like cheating, like i’m not enough.
I‘ve never used Reddit before, but I thought maybe I could get some advice from people completely removed from us. I can’t talk to my friends about this, as most of them are wary of our age gap already and would most likely encourage me to end things with him. I really, genuinely adore my boyfriend and see a future with him.
How should I approach him with a conversation? Or, should I not have a conversation at all because it’s possibly not my business?
TL;DR: I [19F] found out my boyfriend [26M] sometimes watches porn. This makes me very uncomfortable and I am unsure what to do. Should I have a conversation with him? If so, how do I approach it?