So I've noticed a pattern in my dating life. Most guys I've dated in the past want me to be very self sufficient. Not financially but generally as a person. I've noticed that whenever I go through something difficult in life, they provide emotional support but make it clear that i should see a therapist to manage my emotions or they seem reluctant to support me. Its not like I've been depressed or going through a major tragedy, its just issues with work or family. Sometimes its not even issues, like when i told someone i was seeing that one of my relatives can be a bit nosey and I don't like that, he suggested i discuss those feelings with my therapist. I don't even require much support as i dislike needing someone else's help but still i believe that my potential partner and I should be able to support each other emotionally and rely on each other as best as we can. I don't think people can be completely self sufficient. But whenever I've dated someone, I feel like they are very reluctant about providing reassurance or emotional support, whereas I'm very enthusiastic about supporting them. And it makes me feel like something's wrong with me.