I recently moved to a new state and I made a friend a few months ago (I’ll call her Jamie). We’ve been hanging out a lot and I feel like we’ve really bonded and had some fun times together. We’ve been hanging out almost every weekend, went to the state fair, have gone on many hikes/walks, go on random late night outings a lot, I even helped her move to a new apartment. Well, she just called me to vent about her life and she told me how feels like she has no friends and that she hasn’t had a genuine carefree time with a friend in a very very long time. She said she wants to find her person and that she hasn’t found that yet. And I kinda felt a bit caught off guard. Started thinking – Does she not like hanging out with me? Am I boring?
I didn’t want to invalidate her feelings so I just told her I get it and tried to suggest ways to make new friends. But I really didn’t know how to respond to that situation. I’ve had a few “friends” in the past tell me that they feel like they have no friends even though I really try to be a good friend. Is it me? What am I doing wrong?