I'm (40 F) am in a fairly early with relationship with 40 M. The relationship is directly following a breakup with someone who I still love very much but where certain logistics after more than 4 years was causing me a lot of stress, as I deal with anxiety and other issues. I was open that I am not over my ex, but the new guy is quite pushy about planning for our future, going "all in" and the relationship etc., things that are not on my radar at all and may not ever be realistic. Recently he issued ultimatums that I couldn't even talk to my ex or he would walk away, though backed off when I wouldn't agree. I began this just because I was lonely after the breakup, thought it might help get over my ex and my therapist said I should just "get affection wherever I can find it. I don't know if I should just ignore the very different expectations or straighten it out, especially because I don't care that much if the relationship ends.
tl;dr Should I ignore differing goals and expectations in a new relationship that isn't very important to me but is to the other person.